October 11, 2004
Random Observations from Washington D.C.
As you know, the family and I spent the weekend down in the nation's capital. I have some random, disconnected (seemingly) observations from my stay there and I thought I might burden you all with them. So, in no particular order:
* There are a surprisingly large amount of homeless people inhabiting the streets around the White House.
* It is, architecturally, a humane city. The buildings are all low, the streets are wide. It does not make you feel closed in.
* As for those wide streets, whoever designed the street crossing system may have been on crack. There is ample time given to cross the smaller streets but the wider avenues require a good start out of the blocks when the light changes and a strong kick at the end in order to make it across the street safely.
* There is great irony to be found. While walking past the imposing headquarters of the AFL-CIO (I could not find a picture of it at their website, I wonder why), you notice the huge banner suspended from the front. It reads: "America Needs Good Jobs". It hangs over the nine off-street parking spaces in front of the building. Parked in those nine spots were: three Volvos; one Mercedes; 4 various Japanese cars; and, one lonely American pickup. I don't need to spell it out any further do I? I was so struck by this that even though I was a tiny bit late to get to the wedding, I stopped to count and then fix the numbers and makes of the cars in my mind for later.
* You can still smoke in bars and restaurants in D.C.? Are you kidding?
* It is a young place. A lot of kids right out of college are clearly trying to make their way. A lot of energy. And they all seem to run on the weekends. Some of them are very cute. Some are not.
* It is a one industry town. I had an argument with the bartender at the Hay Adams about this. The Yankees and Twins were playing on Friday night and we were in the bar for drinks. At one point, the sole tv suddenly stops showing the game. I move over to inquire, gently, and we had the following exchange:
Me: Excuse me. Is there a reason that the tv is no longer showing the game but instead is showing fat people holding up signs showing how much weight they've lost, not that that isn't commendable?
Him: This is Washington. We're going to show the debates.
Me: Sure, but even in Washington you have to admit that when the debate doesn't start until 9 and it is now 8:40 we could still probably have another 15 minutes or so of baseball, right?
Him: [grumpily changes channel back to game]
Me: [continue conversation with friends while casting glance over to game]
Him: [shouts across bar, stopping conversations] Hey, Yankee fan, we're going to change the tv now, since you ain't even watching!
Me: [shouts back] Not watching, huh? How about this, I can't see the tv at all and, let me think, top of the 3rd, 2 outs, Yankees up 3-1, runner on third, and a 2-1 count on the hitter. Am I right?
Him: [silence, of course I was right]
Me: Asshole. [And we leave, as my cousin compliments me on making friends wherever I go]
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Sounds less like a one-industry town than a town full of @ssholes. Actually, I grew up there (at least partly), and if I'd stayed longer I would have turned into one myself.
Posted by: John Bruce at October 11, 2004 10:21 AM (gXkYX)
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Lovely place, though. I spent a few summers there visiting my grandparents when I was growing up.
There was a whole lot of poverty then and there's a whole lot of it now. The look of the homeless clash with the majestic govt buildings to a considerable degree. It's almost shameful.
Posted by: Mick at October 11, 2004 12:23 PM (VhRca)
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I remember a friend who'd gone to college there telling me that DC had the same infant mortality rate as Port-au-Prince, Haiti. It sounds like poverty is alive and well in our nation's capital.
Posted by: GrammarQueen at October 11, 2004 04:02 PM (gDEwS)
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Hi RP,
well at the Hay Adams you are within spitting distance of the White House so I can't claim to be surprised at their preference. Of course if the Washington Senators ever get in the playoff they might jump on the baseball bandwagon but until then it is politics 24/7. Plenty of other spots around where you can catch a game but I guess the wedding was close by.
This town does live and die with the Skins though. Me, I'll take the Jets and lay the points.
Ivan
Posted by: ivan at October 11, 2004 06:19 PM (A27TY)
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They show the debates over baseball in a bar? Oh yeah. That's a real swing-your-pants kinda' fun place.
Posted by: Helen at October 12, 2004 03:20 AM (psQcz)
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Is
this the place? Appears to have a rather Napoleonic bordello air, suited to lobbyists and/or harpsichordists. (Of course there are strip joints in DC with similar decor. So I'm told.)
Next time you might try one of the
Clyde's bars. Though one hopes this skewed set of priorities -- political chattering over baseball -- will be adjusted a bit throughout DC when the Nats make their return.
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Posted by: Amber at October 12, 2004 06:11 PM (zQE5D)
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Smoking: in Canada also it's banned in almost every city. However, in China, where I now live... I should feel LUCKY or HONOURED if a man decides to ask me if I "mind" if he lights up a cigarette in MY apartment... I quit smoking 4 months ago, it ain't easy around here!
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October 06, 2004
A small milestone reached
Hey, y'all. I've been writing here since July 13 and in that short time, I have hit 1000 comments! Well, actually, 1003. Thanks for all of the great comments (and not so great ones, for that matter) that you all leave. It certainly makes it interesting for me.
Writer of the 1000th Comment is: [drum roll, please] Amber!
Thanks, Amber!
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Oh, dude.
Missed it!
Duuuuude.
Gratz!
Posted by: Elizabeth at October 06, 2004 11:05 PM (sCupo)
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And it was about chocolate, too! Hooray! *grins*
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Canadian Submarine in Distress
From
Jan, apparently a Canadian submarine, non-nuclear, off the coast of Ireland is in big trouble with 9 injuries and drifting with no power.
I did not know that the Canadian navy had submarines but actually, they have four diesel subs they bought from England in 1998. Here's the press release from the Canadian Navy. The press release gives the rationale for buying them and the specifications of the boats.
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Posted by: Mick at October 06, 2004 10:54 AM (VhRca)
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ha! We have three submarines (minus one now, I guess)... including one fully operational submarine stations in the Edmonton mall for visitors to admire it... far far away from ANY source of water watsoever... oh Jesus! An we're a part of NATO???
Speaking of weird facts... did you know Nebraska (of all places!!!) has the most Admirals in all the US states! Including one that's 13 years old.
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October 05, 2004
This may strike you as stupid, but . . .
How crushed do you feel when you open the desk drawer where you keep that little bar of dark chocolate (Break Glass for Emergency Use Only) and you discover that you finished it already and you forgot all about having done so? You've opened that drawer and are just shocked, and not in a good way, to find that there ain't no emergency chocolate in there.
I know I'm not alone on this one. Am I?
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Been there; hated it!
Chin up, RP! (Less chocolate = fewer chins.)
Posted by: GrammarQueen at October 05, 2004 03:03 PM (gDEwS)
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OH GAWD, NO!!! (You're not alone, BTW. Heh.)
And I could really use that chocolate right now, myself.
If I could, I'd bring you one, right now.
Posted by: Margi at October 05, 2004 03:23 PM (MAdsZ)
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Been there, and hated it too. I hope you get your chocolate fix RP.
Posted by: holly at October 05, 2004 06:54 PM (Wkg+N)
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I just had to check the emergency M and Ms. Thankfully still there.
Posted by: Simon at October 05, 2004 08:35 PM (UKqGy)
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Can I relate, that happened recently with my Frango Mints. Only thing was I was sure there were more in the box a few days earlier. It turns out that my stash was raided by a collegue who knew where I kept them. Now I keep Hershey's Kisses on my desk as my first line of defense.
Posted by: michele at October 05, 2004 08:44 PM (LpVNp)
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It's not a catastrophe when you suspect there's none left, but when you are sure there is some there -- and there isn't. *drool and weep, drool and weep* ...and guess what, here you are at work, in the public glare, and you were sure you had some Kleenex in the box to mop up your drool and your tears...and there is no Kleenex!
Posted by: Roberta S at October 05, 2004 10:29 PM (rAAZM)
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Happens all the time, Random! But I also keep a quarter stash in my desk to hit the vending machine when necessary!!!
Posted by: Mick at October 05, 2004 10:52 PM (r4nQR)
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I figured that there'd be somebody who'd be able to relate to this. I just didn't realize how many! Chocolate is a universal healer.
Posted by: RP at October 06, 2004 08:52 AM (LlPKh)
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lol....this made me get up and get some
it was yummy and smeared with peanut butter
Posted by: standing naked at October 06, 2004 10:09 AM (IAJcf)
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It's the same sinking feeling you get when you're at the very top of the roller coaster, except without the fun part.
Posted by: Jim at October 06, 2004 11:24 AM (GCA5m)
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What's even worse is opening the drawer and finding your SPOUSE HAS STOLEN YOUR CHOCOLATE! Yes, it has happened.
But only once. ;-)
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October 04, 2004
Some interesting book recommendations
I have lately been meaning to update my list of "Daily (practically) Reads" to include some new ones. One of them,
the Diplomad is a blog by a bunch of conservative U.S. State Dept. Foreign Service Officers. It has a list of books they liked and I thought it looked pretty great. Here's
the link to the list and here's one or two of their selections I want to run out and pick up:
Holy Madness, Romantics, Patriots, and Revolutionaries, 1776-1871, Adam Zamoyski: A great book, well-written, insightful and funny. You will never think of the French Revolution in quite the same way again after reading this tome. Zamoyski analyzes the European and other revolutionaries who were inspired by the American Revolution and tried to make some of their own -- generally with disastrous results. A definite must-read.
Thunder Below! The USS Barb Revolutionizes Submarine Warfare in World War II, Admiral Eugene B. Fluckey: A rollicking good read! You'll tear through this one. A superb account, published in 1992 (we re-read it this weekend), of the US Navy's submarine campaign against the Japanese Empire. It focuses on the remarkable achievements of the USS Barb under Fluckey -- it "sank" an enemy train, among other accomplishments. We don't want to give any of it away, so go read it. You won't be sorry. The most stunning thing to us was how incredibly young these American submariners were and the almost suicidal missions they went on without hesitation. A real testimony to the American fighting man and his will to win.
Happy reading!
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They do sound good, especially the first book you quoted; Holy Madness. You wouldn't want to ship it off to Israel when you were done would you?
Posted by: Rachel Ann at October 04, 2004 10:22 AM (UWmGB)
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Your book recommendations always make me wish I had more time to read, RP! There's only so much time in a poor working mother's day!
Posted by: GrammarQueen at October 04, 2004 02:41 PM (gDEwS)
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First, I have to get the time to go buy it!
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Munch Theft: An Update
You all recall, I'm sure, that in late August,
two famous paintings were stolen from the Munch Museum in Oslo, Norway. Well, now almost six weeks later, we have an
update from the Police: They don't have a f**king clue who took the damn things.
"We have not had any good, concrete tips about where the pictures are. We are still optimistic but we need some time," said police inspector Iver Stensrud, head of the Organized Crime division of the Oslo police district. "There are no concrete leads or groups that are more interesting than others in the investigation. A reward is one of the things that is under continuous assessment," Stensrud said.
Translation? We have no idea what happened to the damn things and are so totally useless that we can't even agree on whether, 40 days later, it might make some sense to offer a reward to shake loose some information. We need some time because if we get fired now, our pensions may not have vested so you really need to wait to decide if we're incompetent.
I will eat my words with the greatest pleasure if these clowns turn these paintings up again. I fear I will not have to do that. I'm sure you know how this all makes me feel right?

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October 01, 2004
The Pink Panther Strikes, Again!
Did any you see the
news that there was a daring jewel heist in Paris at the National Syndicate of Antique Dealers 22nd Biennial? Protected by four security guards and several salespeople, two huge diamonds, worth $14 million, were lifted into thin air.
According to the reporter:
The French news media were quick to draw analogies with the country's famous fictional gentleman burglar, Arsène Lupin, and the caper might make Americans think of Cary Grant's dapper character in "To Catch a Thief." But the police say the real thieves, though skilled, are probably far less refined.
That's the French news media, you see, making those comparisons. That's probably why the most natural one did not occur to them. No, not the dashing Cary Grant, but the bumbling Peter Sellers from the Pink Panter movies is the one who comes immediately to mind. You wonder how they could have missed that film reference. Or, maybe you don't.
Detectives at France's Brigade de Répression du Banditisme say there is little chance of recovering the diamonds. They say the gems are probably somewhere in Eastern Europe or Russia by now. While it will be nearly impossible to sell such easily recognizable stones on the open market, they say, the diamonds can be recut and then sold. The police say there are also plenty of private buyers in Russia and the Arab world willing to accept a discount in return for leaving difficult questions unanswered.
I'm telling you, if the internationally famous detectives at the Brigade de Répression du Banditisme (or, Brigade for the Repression of Banditism) have already given up, then only Inspector Clouseau can crack this case!
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Posted by: GrammarQueen at October 01, 2004 02:29 PM (gDEwS)
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Banditism??!! Or Banditry?
Posted by: Mark D. Firestone at October 01, 2004 10:05 PM (swj3R)
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September 24, 2004
The Lazy and Shiftless Have Rights, Too!
I stumbled across the following
article and was both amused and a little shocked. The efforts the Brits will go to these days to protect the rights and easily offended sensibilities of those less fortunate than us is exceptional. If you advertise for help wanted, "hard working" may not be a requirement for the job, because you may be discriminating against the lazy:
A businesswoman has been banned from asking for 'hard-working' staff in a job ad because it discriminates against the lazy.
Beryl King was told by a Jobcentre that her advert for warehouse workers discriminated against people who were not industrious.
Beryl, 57, told the Daily Mirror: "I couldn't believe my ears. Has our world gone mad?
"I've been running my business for 27 years and it's getting harder to find people who want to do a fair day's work for a fair day's pay.
"How long before someone says you can't pay people for working because it discriminates against those on benefit who are paid for not working?"
Beryl, who owns two job agencies in Totton, Hants, offered £5.42 an hour for "warehouse packers who must be hard-working and reliable".
The Southampton Jobcentre is investigating. A spokesman said: "Words such as 'hardworking' can be accepted if used with a clear job description."
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I suppose my boss shouldn't have asked me if actually knew how to run a printing press, as that would have discriminated against the unskilled.
Whacky stuff.
Posted by: Tuning Spork at September 24, 2004 12:24 PM (e+WQX)
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This can't be true! Are you putting us on???
Posted by: Mick at September 24, 2004 03:45 PM (VhRca)
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I believe that it's discriminatory to not pay me for work that I planned on doing but never quite got around to it. That and charging me a fine for something that I did that disregarded some law that I was too lazy to learn about.
Posted by: Oorgo at September 24, 2004 04:29 PM (lM0qs)
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Living in Britain (for most of the year anyhow) I can say that this certainly is no surprise.
Posted by: Andrew Cusack at September 24, 2004 07:07 PM (/Rmck)
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Thanks for your comment. I appreciated it at this difficult time.
Posted by: Steve the mildly unwell bastrd at September 25, 2004 07:09 AM (4U1lf)
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Can I just get paid for thinking that maybe I would like to do some work if I could find something that would suit me and not interfere in my life too much? I mean "get up at noon and off to work at 1. Take an hour for lunch and then by 2 were done!" Emergald city all the way!
Posted by: Rachel Ann at September 25, 2004 04:07 PM (/gLIx)
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Next they'll be protecting the competent as well. Where will it end? And won't someone think of the children?
Posted by: Simon at September 27, 2004 04:57 AM (GWTmv)
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This was actually true. Hard to believe, huh?
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Today will be a short day
As I noted below, tonight we begin the celebration of the end of the High Holidays, so I will be out of the office early today. I will be happy to have a couple of moments of peace at the end of this week.
First, sorry to all of you who have emailed me and/or left comments and I have not replied. This has been a very busy week and I'm going to try to catch up over the weekend. I am involved, out of work, with three or four different not for profit entities. I had board meetings for three of them this week and all of the meetings generated more work. I did not get home before 10:30 at least twice this week. Then, last night, my in-laws arrived to stay with us for the weekend.
In the meantime, I also squeezed in a visit to get the car serviced and I took my daughter to school one day.
Did I mention that I also practice law in my spare time? One Federal Court oral argument, one motion, one dispute resolved, one settlement negotiated, papers in opposition to a motion received, two new contracts to review and comment on, and, one new piece of substantial litigation offered to me by an existing client. Nothing done to hit next week's deadlines yet, but those are really on Friday.
And now it's Friday already. I wish I had the sense of control that this guy has (it's a great picture)!
Anyway, I'll be trying this weekend to catch up on my emails! Sorry about the delays!
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i hope your weekend is all you hope for. enjoy the family visit.
and no...
i can not believe you find time to practice law.
we will be here as time permits - blogs are great like that...
Posted by: standing naked at September 24, 2004 09:23 AM (IAJcf)
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Good luck with weathering today's list of activities, and may your holiday be full of peace.
Posted by: Mandalei at September 24, 2004 09:31 AM (LcyhB)
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Thanks y'all! I hope you both have a great weekend!
Posted by: RP at September 24, 2004 09:35 AM (LlPKh)
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hhhmmm..got to thinking - thought of something elase you need to catch up on this weekend...
see that side bar?
there is a section that says coming soon.......
;-)
Posted by: standing naked at September 24, 2004 02:39 PM (AOec3)
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Have a good weekend, Random. Hope you have a good time with your inlaws!
Posted by: Mick at September 24, 2004 03:50 PM (VhRca)
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Random! Enjoy your holiday! Don't worry about us; we'll be here when you get back. :-)
Enjoy the scotch, too! What a great tradition...
(Note to Standing Naked: I really do snort with laughter sometimes (see comment thread below), when something takes me by surprise. It's terribly embarrassing and Dan never fails to laugh his ass off at my expression of mortification because...you know, it's just not ladylike at all!)
Posted by: Amber at September 24, 2004 05:04 PM (zQE5D)
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Hope the holidays, the time with your family and the east coast autmunal tree show (just begining at a park near you) combined to a lovely, restful weekend.
Sounds like you need some Calgon even more than I do!
Posted by: Elizabeth at September 27, 2004 01:36 AM (Sqjve)
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Day of Atonement
Tonight begins the end of the High Holidays which began with the Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashanah and ends tonight with Kol Nidre and Yom Kippur.
I was going to write something about it. But Simon already wrote a great explanation of the holiday and Rishon wrote about the liturgical peculiarities. Both of these were fabulous posts and I have little to add.
I would add once again, as I did before, my hope that this is a quiet holiday and, for those who keep us safe from harm, a boring and uneventful tour of duty.
Let me also add a note about how my family marks the end of the penitential fast. After nothing crosses the plain of your lips for 25-27 hours, no water, no nothing, we break our fast. How? Since I have been about twelve, and old enough to join in the fast, I have joined in the breaking of the fast with a shot of Scotch. Have you ever tried this? It hits your stomach like an explosion and warmth spreads throughout your body like it was on fire. This is a great way to end the fast. However, you do find yourself in temple during that last service just wishing for a drink! That may not be completely within the spirit of the holiday, but, what are you going to do?
I wish all of those celebrating this holiday an easy fast! And to the rest of you here in NYC, I urge you to follow the example of some of my non-Jewish friends and go out to a nice restaurant since there is almost never a problem, according to my friends, in getting a reservation that night!
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Well, I won't be fasting, but I think I'll take a shot of scotch anyway!
I hope you have a pleasant holiday!
Posted by: Mick at September 24, 2004 03:52 PM (VhRca)
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On Scotch!!! Boy, you must have a iron clad stomach; and head! I'd be asleep for the rest of the week! We broke on tuna and pretezls and later we have our after fast ice cream. Hope your fast was an easy one.
Posted by: Rachel Ann at September 25, 2004 04:05 PM (/gLIx)
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Rachel Anne, the Scotch still sounds like a nicer alternative.
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September 20, 2004
A Jewish Joke, as told by Jews
Some of you may have been following the Yankees / Red Sox games and rivalry. Most of you probably don't care. I care. Right now, the Yankees lead the Sox by 4.5 games and the two teams are scheduled to play another three game series starting on Friday night this week. Friday night marks the beginning of Yom Kippur, the culmination of the High Holidays and the Day of Atonement when we ask God to forgive us for the many sins we have committed during the year and to seal us in the book of life. Yom Kippur begins with something called Kol Nidre, which takes place that evening on Friday night. This brings us, with this background, to the joke, one of my favorites:
Mr. Goldberg calls his Rabbi and says, "Rabbi, I have a problem and I need some advice. This year, the Red Sox and the Yankees are playing in a very tight pennant race and the most important game falls on Kol Nidre. What should I do?" The Rabbi listens, thinks for a moment and responds: "Mr. Goldberg, what are you worried about? It is just for a situation like this that we have VCR's!"
And Mr. Goldberg replies, "You mean I can tape Kol Nidre!?!"
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LOL.
My fave Jewish jokes is the one with Moses and Kashrut and the two men on the desert isle with three shuls. But this one is good also!
Posted by: Rachel Ann at September 21, 2004 04:13 AM (SbTAD)
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Fun.
You may appreciate this article on Sandy Koufax sitting out the opening game of the '65 Series because it fell on
Yom Kippur.
Hank Greenberg faced a
similar situation in '34. Interesting stuff.
Posted by: Mark C N Sullivan at September 21, 2004 04:29 PM (q9XsZ)
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Thanks for the links, Mark.
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September 17, 2004
What we should learn from a funeral
I just returned from my friend's funeral. His death was not unexpected but the news still carried a shock. The speakers who chose to memorialize his life were very good. They knew him intimately, spoke with great love and conviction, and were moving. I sat there, listening and getting choked up and I began to think, gee, I hope they told him how they felt about him while he was alive. I hope he knew how much his friends loved him and appreciated him. Now we got the title of this post. I think we may all be guilty of not telling the people around us how we feel about them. I know I am. I also know how awkward it can feel to tell someone that you love them and that you appreciate them. Nonetheless, better to hear it alive then at the funeral.
My kids know they are loved. Sometimes my daughter just climbs up into my lap on her own, because she feels like sitting in my lap, and I'll say to her: "Hey, do you think you can just climb up into my lap whenever you want!" And she'll reply, "yes". I'll ask her why she thinks that and, without fail, she responds: "Because you love me".
So my wish today is that you, gentle reader, go and tell someone dear to you how much you love them.
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i am going to call my mom
thanks RP
Posted by: standing naked at September 17, 2004 01:19 PM (IAJcf)
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I am sorry about your friend, Random. Death is always a shaker-upper, isn't it? Like divorce, it scares us and reminds us how precious and fragile the world we love can be. {{{{{hugs}}}}}
Posted by: Amber at September 17, 2004 03:14 PM (zQE5D)
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This brings tears to my eyes as I read and type. I told one of my best friends this morning that I love her and i will get to tell my friend who is dying that I love her shortly when we chat. The best news was that i to tell my Mother I loved her before she died.
Here is to Love!!
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Posted by: RP at September 18, 2004 05:07 AM (X3Lfs)
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That's always good advice, Random.
Thanks!
Posted by: Mick at September 18, 2004 11:24 AM (VhRca)
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I guess we'll always wonder if we tell each other enough how much we love each other. We don't always say it out loud, but, I believe, we're good at saying it in so many other ways.
I don't wonder if my friends know that I love them. They know I do just as much as I know that they love me. We don't have to struggle to say it aloud to know it... it's obvious that we love each other by the very fact that we're frickin' friends!
But, we do need to know it. An unknowing doubt may bring about curiousity... emptiness. Hopefully, absent words, the obviousness of our love will always fill in the blanks.
I really believe that we know when we're loved and don't need to be told in so many words.
But it's always nice to hear anyway!
Girlchild: Because you love me!
Have I mentioned lately that I just love you guys?!
Posted by: Tuning Spork at September 19, 2004 10:42 PM (FRs9X)
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Highlights from Yesterday
Yesterday, we celebrated Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year. I should be doing the same thing today but I'm kind of backed up at work and, to top it off, I just got an email informing me that a friend has died and his funeral will be held this morning. I'm glad I happened to be wearing a tie today because I'm going to try to sneak out for the funeral mass.
I took the Girl Child with me to temple yesterday for the whole morning, armed with a bag containing snacks, a drink, and a small selection of books to look at for when she got bored. When I tell you that she looked exceptionally cute, you don't have to take my word for it. Two different policemen patted her on the head as we passed and she thanked them for stopping the cars for us.
After we made it in, we went to the tots service. It was very sweet and the Girl Child got to play the honey (literally, the honey jar) in the little skit about dipping apples in honey for a sweet new year. I think she had a good time and she picked up a couple of new songs. What was the best part? Easily the best part was sitting next to her and watching her face change from fierce concentration to curiosity to delight and back again. She had a good time for sure.
We then went upstairs to the main sanctuary and joined my father and my grandparents, so four generations in one row. That was sweet, too, and I enjoyed having her with me. As we left, we spoke to the rabbis to wish them a happy new year. We sit, with my grandfather, up at the front (the second row) of the synagogue. My grandfather was one of the founders of the synagogue and helped build it. The younger rabbi told me he was impressed by how well behaved the Girl Child was. He clearly did not hear us reading Little Red Riding Hood in Norwegian for a part of the service. I was very quiet.
As we left, the Girl Child turned to me and said: "Did you hear that, Pappa? Mr. Rabbi said I was very well behaved!"
I then returned home with the Girl Child to pick up the Boy Child and take them over to my parents for lunch. The Girl Child amused me by turning to the Boy Child in the car and saying: "BC, sitter du der og driter, vennen min?" She's speaking much more Norwegian now to the lad, which makes my wife and me very happy. A loose translation, is, "BC, my friend, are you sitting there and shitting?" She didn't seem to mind that she was wrong because she then said to him: "are you my little bean, studman?"
The day ended with a profound thought from my wife and I want to pass it along. We were talking about a job interview she has coming up in a couple of days and she was clearly not excited about the job or the interview and so I asked her why she was doing it. She replied that she wanted to meet the people she'd be doing the job with and for. She said that as she's gotten more experienced, she's come to realize that the people are at least and sometime more important than the job itself and if she really liked the people, she'd take a job that didn't interest her. She's a smart one, she is, my wife. I learn a lot from her when I pay attention.
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Your wife's philosophy sounds brilliant! Much too often we find the ideal job is connected to working with people we dislike or have little respect for, thus making the job less than ideal.
Your daughter sounds delightful as usual!
Posted by: Mick at September 17, 2004 09:06 AM (VhRca)
Posted by: Mark C N Sullivan at September 17, 2004 09:50 AM (q9XsZ)
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your wife is a very wise women
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it sounds like you had a very nice day yesterday
i am sorry to hear about your friend.
Posted by: standing naked at September 17, 2004 10:09 AM (IAJcf)
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My condolence in the passing of your friend. Telling someone my thoughts and feelings is something I don't hesitate in doing since 9/11. I'm grateful for the awareness of how precious life is as it helps me not leave things unsaid or undone.
Thank you for sharing your celebration with us, it was tender and funny. You have a precocious daughter, that provides you with much material.
May you have a blessed New Year!
Posted by: michele at September 17, 2004 03:58 PM (37FD7)
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Nice post, good imagery, sorry to hear about your friend, we lost our best man for our wedding 2 days before the event.
Your daughter sounds very smart and cute, I like the bit about her Norwegian mistakes, I smiled.
Posted by: Oorgo at September 17, 2004 04:05 PM (lM0qs)
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RP,
Condolences on your friend's passing. Your daughter sounds adorable - reminds me of my daughter, 5, who now goes to "big church" (and actually sits more quietly and attentively than her older brothers, 7 and 10).
L'Shana Tova.
Posted by: JohnL at September 17, 2004 05:28 PM (Hs4rn)
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Thank you, everyone, for your kind wishes.
John, I bet our two daughters would get along pretty well.
Posted by: RP at September 18, 2004 04:57 AM (X3Lfs)
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I'm sorry for the loss of your friend RP; he sounds as if he were beloved by many.
I hope you had a great Rosh Hashanah. I know I did. It really was wonderful leaving the world behind; three days without the news left me more peaceful.
And I agree with your wife; the people can make or break anything; a community, or a job. I hope she finds the people are compatible with her and the job ends up being something she enjoys.
Posted by: Rachel Ann at September 18, 2004 04:43 PM (d+swO)
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So if you could just get your smart wife to send me this week's lottery numbers, I'll agree with you 100%
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September 15, 2004
The Jewish New Year
Simon, at Simon World, has an
outstanding post today about the Jewish New Year celebrations and observances which begin today, at sunset, and mark the commencement of the High Holidays. I highly recommend reading it, it's better than what I was going to post about it.
I would add one thought, though. Traditionally, this is the time when Islamic fundamentalists and other freaks most like to attack Israel and Jewish targets outside of Israel, or even start wars. So join me, please in, if not praying for their safety, at least sending good thoughts to those brave men and women who during this holy period stand guard at borders and places of worship and in Iraq. May they stand a boring and uneventful watch and may God protect them.
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What a wonderful, thoughful idea. Thank you.
Posted by: Elizabeth at September 15, 2004 10:41 AM (reWVd)
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Thanks for letting us share your holiday in a spiritual way. I now understand the increase in attacks these last 2 days in Iraq. I'll also pray for Jewish people everywhere, with Islamist, no where is safe.
Posted by: michele at September 16, 2004 12:48 AM (beN4P)
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September 10, 2004
A Quiet Friday
I will not be posting much this morning. My daughter has her visiting day at pre-school this morning and I worked like a deck hand this week to arrange my schedule so that I could take her. Also, the Boy Child seemed to spike a fever last night out of nowhere so I may be taking him for a quick visit to the doctors this morning before pre-school.
The Girl Child is not so much excited about pre-school as she is about the possiblity that I might take her out for breakfast before taking her to school. She informed me several times how it might be nice to go out for pancakes. Assuming her brother is well enough, I think she might be right.
If all goes according to plan, I will be at work around lunch time and may have a little time to post then. If not, I hope you all have a great weekend!
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Too funny.
Bear is also a pancake freak.
Good luck today!
Posted by: Elizabeth at September 10, 2004 09:25 AM (gwzoL)
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Hope your son is feeling better.
Enjoy the pancakes and the weekend!
Posted by: Mick at September 10, 2004 03:09 PM (VhRca)
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have fun - hope the morning went well..
i love pancakes...i think i need them for dinner.
they are great for dinner....yummy.
Posted by: standing naked at September 10, 2004 06:55 PM (IAJcf)
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September 08, 2004
It's definitely one of those days
Walk to train station in torrential down pour.
Dressed nicely because 4:00 p.m. court appearance.
Discover on reaching train station that shoe has hole in it.
Spend the remainder of the day hoping for sun and with a wet sock because no time to go get the damn thing fixed.
Sudden realization hits that hole in shoe is high point of day.
Resist temptation to chuck it all and jump on tramp steamer headed to Spice Islands.
Definitely, one of those days. Yup.
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Hey RP,
First time I've visted in a while! Sad to hear about the day from hell, and certainly hope it improves, though it doesn't look that way at the moment.
Posted by: Mandaleu at September 08, 2004 03:11 PM (LcyhB)
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I know where you're coming from...hope the day gets better for you, though.
Posted by: Mick at September 08, 2004 03:44 PM (VhRca)
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'cause we've got... hiiiiiigh hopes, we've got... hiiiiiigh hopes...
Posted by: Andrew Cusack at September 08, 2004 03:45 PM (xuV6d)
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Don't Look For Me On Japanese TV
Coming out of Grand Central Station this morning onto 42nd Street, I paused, stopped in my tracks by the fury of the rain. It was coming down so hard and so straight that I was shocked into momentary immobility, a condition not normally known to regular NY commuters. I suppose that was what attracted the nice young reporter, that here was an actual NYer not in motion. She approached me from the side, just barely in my peripheral vision, which I thought was odd and is really not the best way to initiate contact with any stranger in a big city. Then she excused herself and told me that she was a reporter for Japanese television, accompanied by a cameraman, waved a copy of this morning's Newsday in front of me, and asked me if I would comment on the 1000 dead American soldiers.
I stood there as the fury of the storm broke around us and I declined to share with her my thoughts. Firstly, why did she want to know? What was she going to do with my little interview? How was it going to be cut by her editors? What kind of television station was this? So, I politely declined. Don't look for me on Japanese television.
That I declined does not mean that I did not have an opinion. I do.
First, I recoil in horror from the size of the number of our soldiers and civilian defense dept. employees who have been killed in Iraq. The number is so large as to be difficult to wrap my mind around. One thousand. I assume that many of them had families. I assume many of them were reservists who have left a hole in their societies as the jobs they filled and functions they performed are empty and undone. This is horrid and my heart goes out to the families they left behind.
Yet, this is also war. We are engaged in a war with a ruthless and horrible enemy. An enemy who will not shirk from targeting children. An enemy who regards air planes as weapons of mass destruction, who thinks civilian commuter buses are legitimate targets, and who kills pregnant women. This war is being fought right now in Iraq. I think it is better fought there than in the streets of NY or the fields of Pennsylvania again. Right now, the terrorists are drawn to the cities of Iraq where they can fight our soldiers. I believe that our soldiers are taking the fight to the enemy. That is not a bad place, from my perspective, to fight this fight.
I am grateful for the service of our men and women. I respect them and I regularly stop men and women in uniform and thank them. I am grateful for the families they've left behind who have to hold it together while their partners are gone.
So, while I am horrified by the sheer number of soldiers who have died in this fight, I can't help but wonder how many other World Trade Centers they have averted.
I guess where I come out is here: these people have not died in vain, they have died to protect us.
I honor their memory here today, even if I was not inclined to do it on Japanese television.
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War is not suppose to be pleseant or easy; it is sometimes necessary. We shouldn't run to war as to a beloved but neither should we shirk the necessary fight.
What Saddam was doing to his people was an evil, and that evil had to be stopped immediately before more innocent died. Those who went to war have given their lives for their sakes, for our sakes, and the sake of other free people in the world.
The fight takes place in the streets of most places in the world; and it could still take place in the streets of America. No matter where it takes place however, we must stop evil from growing; or we would not be fighting against evil we would be enslaved by it.
I agree with your sentiments.
Posted by: Rachel Ann at September 08, 2004 10:30 AM (+zrBv)
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*ditto Holly's reaction*
:-(
Posted by: Amber at September 08, 2004 03:02 PM (zQE5D)
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What a great post. As well as interesting perspective. Amen.
Posted by: Mark D. Firestone at September 08, 2004 09:15 PM (Ce6EN)
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September 07, 2004
Everybody Out of The Pool: Summer's Over
I am sorry to say that summer is over. Here are a couple of pictures of summer I took yesterday to keep us warm during the coming cold:

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Oh, my.
Heavenly. Thank you for sharing them!
Posted by: Emma at September 07, 2004 11:40 AM (MAdsZ)
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Are you a sailor? I have a small two-man boat myself and have been sailing for almost 15 years. Beautiful scenes, btw. Thanks for posting them.
Posted by: mallarme at September 07, 2004 04:46 PM (qwrSj)
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I'm glad y'all liked these. I took 'em yesterday.
Mike, I used to sail before I had kids. They can't really swim yet and so, like so many other things, I've given it up (for the meantime) since the arrival of the wee ones.
Posted by: rp at September 07, 2004 05:10 PM (LlPKh)
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It was 101 here on Saturday. We get our Indian summer in September and October. Endless summer! The East Coast Girls are hip, but they aren't California girls. Not by a longshot!
Posted by: Mark D. Firestone at September 07, 2004 10:07 PM (xWqVZ)
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Where were these taken? The second shot seems very familiar.
Posted by: Stephen Macklin at September 07, 2004 11:23 PM (U3CvV)
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Long Island Sound, For my money. Am I right?
Posted by: Mark D. Firestone at September 08, 2004 08:35 AM (xWqVZ)
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The Long Island Sound it is!
Posted by: RP at September 08, 2004 10:08 AM (LlPKh)
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Woohoo! Double or nothing: The pictures were taken from the Connecticut shoreline looking towards Long Island.
Posted by: Mark D. Firestone at September 08, 2004 09:12 PM (Ce6EN)
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A Last Meal
Things have been terribly serious around here of late but with good reason. That said, I feel the need to inject a note of frivolity into my blog. I will pose to you the question I discussed with my wife last night: What would you choose for your last meal?
It started with a traditional 3 course dinner concept. Then I had to add a soup course, salad course, and a pasta course. It's gonna be a loooong dinner if it's going to be the last one. My wife talked me out of the need to add a Jambalaya course but it took awhile and I still disagree with her.
Now I know that I have some foodie readers so I expect I'll see some pretty interesting suggestions. Let the feeding begin:
Aperitif: A Sidecar. Or a really good Martini with Bombay Sapphire Gin.
Soup:
Hungarian Sour Cherry soup
Salad:
One of the following:
Artichoke Vinaigrette
Classic Steakhouse of Tomatoes, sliced onions, and blue cheese
Classic Caesar with extra anchovies
Pasta:
There was this pasta I had once or twice at this little French place in the West Village, it was homemade tagliatelli with truffles, butter, and raw fois gras pieces that were cooked by the heat of the pasta and kind of dissolved into the dish. It was heaven. It should have come with a referral to a cardiologist.
Appetizer:
Either a miniature Fruits de mer or some wild mushrooms in a sherry cream sauce in a puff pastry.
Main course:
Now we probably have to have either:
Beef Stroganoff with egg noodles or
Chili cheeseburgers with chili cheese fries from this place in Portchester, NY.
Dessert:
Either a tarte au citron
or a black forest cake like my wife made for my birthday some years ago with homemade brandied cherries
or tarte tatin
or a root beer float
Or all of the above
Let's add a cheese course:
Explorateur for the triple creme
A ripe Stilton
A crotin (aged goat's cheese)
An aged Gouda that crackles when you bite into it
Something with truffles in it
Something with a washed rind
I reserve the right to come back and edit this post endlessly.
For instance, I have not put any wines in. I ought to.
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hhhmmm...
last meal?
simple i think - nothing fancy -
new york pizza - it reminds me of all the good things about my childhood -
and a big glass of lemonade
made from the lemons that made this my last meal.
Posted by: kbear at September 07, 2004 08:51 AM (OdonZ)
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Seriously, I think I need to print out your list, since it begs to have a moment in the bedroom with it.
My list includes my favorite foods:
Artichokes
Sag Aloo curry with a peshwari naan
Homemade macaroni and cheese
Risotto
Cheesecake and cheese platter for dessert
And alcohol. Masses of alcohol.
My meals don't exactly go together. It would be more like my "last day". You know. So I could spread out the foods.
Posted by: Helen at September 07, 2004 09:52 AM (GoCG9)
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Actually, Helen, you raise a good point. My list of things was not so much a meal as it was a collection of things that I'd want to have again if it was the last time I'd get the chance to do it. A meal would be more harmonious and would have some sort of progression, and I don't mean from truffles to chili, as sublime as that might be.
Posted by: RP at September 07, 2004 10:08 AM (LlPKh)
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Mmm.. nices cheeses, though I don't think much of the old cheese here in Holland... too rich. But Port Salut and brie and... oh, yummy!
Posted by: Hannah at September 07, 2004 11:28 AM (7dELN)
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In the spirit of a final day's worth of meals, rather than a final meal, I'd like to add the category of junk foods. I could not possibly leave this earth without savoring, once again, a couple of fritos, maybe some cheez doodles, m&ms, nachos, and perhaps a hostess cupcake. This list is by no means exhaustive, nor does it even cover all areas of junkfood.
Posted by: GrammarQueen at September 07, 2004 01:53 PM (gDEwS)
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I hopped over here from Helen's site, and this post made me laugh because my dinner last night actually was beef stroganoff and a sidecar.

I could happily make a last meal of yorkshire pudding and a chocolate souffle. And a sidecar.
Posted by: Lesley at September 07, 2004 05:54 PM (yQGoT)
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I would go asian; miso soup, cold pressed tofu with tons of different sauces, vegetable sushi, sake, which I have never had, but why not?
Posted by: Rachel Ann at September 08, 2004 02:15 AM (+zrBv)
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Whatever it is, it's not a time for fast food. I'd ask for Iranian caviar with a Cuban cigar (if I was in the US)...
Posted by: Simon at September 08, 2004 04:04 AM (GWTmv)
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Simon, you are quite the subversive.
Funny, Rachel, that you picked asian food. My wife picked chinese dumplings as her appetizer.
Posted by: RP at September 08, 2004 10:10 AM (LlPKh)
Posted by: Jim at September 08, 2004 03:44 PM (GCA5m)
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I've just read all thos salivatingly (it's a new word!) wonderful gastronomic delights that everyone would choose for a last meal.
But I'm curious to know: when you are feasting fit to burst, have you contemplated just WHERE this last meal would be eaten? Would you have a choice? Who would you choose to dine with?
Janelle :-)))
Posted by: Janelle at September 08, 2004 04:08 PM (+oKAz)
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September 05, 2004
A night at the movies
Ok, it was really a night on the couch with a DVD I bought over a year ago but never watched. But, before I get to that, may I tell you that there is a wonderful thing that happens when you keep the children up all day at the beach, playing with the sand and running in and out of the surf, so that they all miss their naps. They go straight to bed at 7:30 with not a peep of complaint and no singing in bed of, "Nobody knows the trouble I've seen" (the tradtional lament of political prisoners all over this great land).
The beach was huge fun. We went with our old college roomie and his family. They have kids approximately the same age as ours and the two oldest kids, mine and his, get along like two peas in a pod. It was quite something to see our kids playing together. We stayed the whole day, said good bye to the roomie, threw the kids in the bath, and packed them off to bed after reading Mr. Jeremy Fisher and Tom Kitten to the Girl Child.
Then, it was adult only time. We opened a bottle of white Port which had been sitting in the fridge forever. Ever have white Port? I assume you are all familiar with the regular red Port, that yummy stuff you drink with walnuts and stinky cheese. A moment while we all applaud the coming of winter with the need to light fires in the fireplace and drink Port and eat copious amounts of stinky cheese. The white stuff is lighter and served chilled as an aperitif, mostly. It's heavier than the nice fino Sherry's, but still quite yummy and this one was no exception.
The film we watched was a Danish film, in Danish, called Italiensk for begyndere. You may have come across it in English where it was called:

It was billed on the back as a romatic comedy and appeared, according to its description, to mostly be set in Venice. It seemed a perfect choice to end the day. I don't mean to be picky about this, but I prefer my romantic comedies with less death, alcohol abuse, morphine killings, and angst. Perhaps that is what passes for comedy in Denmark. The romance part was not terribly believable, either, for that matter. But, it was of no matter. We actually still enjoyed the damn thing. It moved briskly enough and it was shot in such an odd style, perhaps a varient on that Scandinavian school that mandated just one camera and natural light only. I don't recall the name of that but I'm sure one of you clever people will (I have boundless confidence in the smarts of my readers, you see).
Now that I think about it, the only other Danish language film I can recall seeing was kind of dark, too. Anyone else recall Babette's Feast (Babettes gæstebud)? That was dark but an excellent film.
Today is not beach weather here in Southern New York, but it is a perfectly good day to make homemade peanut butter with the Girl Child and that is what we did. For anyone who wants to do it to, take 2 cups of salted, roasted peanuts, one tablespoon of peanut oil, put them all in the blender and blend until you get butter. You may have to stop and scrape it down from time to time. It's yummy. You can put it in the fridge and when you want it, stir the oil back in to the butter. It will keep, I'm told, for about two weeks or so.
Peace, y'all.
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Hmmm...the only thing I can think of is the Bergman school of film, but I doubt that's what you're refering to.
Regardless, your description of the movie in question was not enticing enough to make me run out and purchase a copy, but if it ever comes up on cable I'll give it a shot.
:-)
Posted by: Mick at September 06, 2004 09:08 PM (PXONK)
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All I can think of is "film noir", but I'm sure that's not what yer looking for either.
And yeah, been kinda chilly and windy the past few days, eh? A snifter of brandy would be nice on a night like this. Guess I'll have to settle for orange juice...
Posted by: Tuning Spork at September 06, 2004 10:54 PM (DK6Il)
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Random, have you and your wife ever watched "My Father's Glory" and the sequel, "My Mother's Castle"? I love those films. No, they're not Danish (I'm with you on "Babette's Feast"; it was not exactly a "fun" viewing) but they are very enjoyable. And not dark at all. :-)
Warning: nothing bad ever really happens. There is no great angst, no terrible conflict. And that is the wonderful appeal of these films. For me, anyway.
Posted by: Amber at September 08, 2004 02:56 PM (zQE5D)
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