August 30, 2005
The Un-blog
I am overwhelmed with lassitude and unblogginess today. I can't seem to get excited about writing about any of the things I thought interesting today. So, instead, I choose to meander. You are welcome to tag along, if you wish, but only if you would wear a scooby-doo band aid to work. I require that you be prepared to exhibit that level of not taking yourself too seriously today to go any farther. Ok?
*First, the text of a movie review from the NY Times today:
Another neglected Eurotrash classic resurrected - in an extremely good print - by Mondo Macabro DVD, "Girl Slaves of Morgana Le Fay" is a 1971 French softcore sex and horror film that might have been directed by Jacques Rivette and written by Jean Cocteau. Obliquely based on the legend of King Arthur's half-sister, the sorceress, the picture takes place almost entirely within a remote chateau, where Morgana (Dominique Delpierre), employs her ancient wiles to recruit a young tourist (Mireille Saunin) into the ranks of her female love slaves, all gifted with immortality. To keep things lively, Morgana's court also includes a psychotic dwarf (Alfred Baillou) with an excessive fondness for eyeliner and a lust for revenge.
Despite the ultra low budget, and the apparent inability of the cameraman to create a single atmospheric shot, the film - the first to be directed by Bruno Gantillon - develops a real sense of mystery and fantasy, chiefly through a theatrical stylization of movement and dialogue (choral forms predominate) that casts a spell not unlike Mr. Rivette's celebrated "Céline and Julie Go Boating," which "Morgana" predates by three years. A genuine curiosity, presented here with appropriate respect and illuminating supplementary material, including Mr. Gantillon's short film "An Artistic Couple." $19.95. Not rated.
As one of my co-workers astutely points out: lesbian love slaves and dwarves, how can you go wrong? Indeed.
And how cool a job does the reviewer have, huh?
*Second, it seems like summer is slipping away, taking with it half memories and full truths of summers past: sticking to the faux-leather seats in my dad's Oldsmobile, cooled only by the breeze from the windows; sand in places sand should not comfortably be; smelling like sun tan oil; eating anything by the sea because it is a truism that food consumed next to salt water simply tastes better; children kissed golden brown by the sun; the Girl Child demonstrating the cannon ball; the Girl Child learning how to swim and throwing herself into the big kids' pool, totally without any fear, to demonstrate her new skills; the Boy Child throwing up his hand and yelling "MEG!" (pronounced "my") when asked who was going to the Kiddy Pool or to the "Beak" (his word for beach); the feeling that your whole life still stretches in front of you as the days become longer and the sunlight keeps coming, long into the evening; the sailboats tacking back and forth as they race on the Sound, looking sleek and purposeful; the explosion of the fried clam belly in your mouth with all of its richness, so powerful as to almost be too much, although you finish the whole order anyway; the taste of that cold, cold beer that somehow never tastes the same, never seems quite so necessary in February; summer's happiest tomatoes (need I say more?); and, finally, the bittersweet realization that the beach toys are soon to be packed away, the life guards gone back to school, and the days grown shorter, until all I have left are these thoughts.
*I don't really get the whole Cindy Sheehan thing. At first, I have to say, I thought it just fine that she wanted to meet with the President, sort of in the grand tradition of common citizens meeting with Lincoln at the height of the Civil War. But now, I have come to think her a lightning rod for fools, a rallying point for the wacky left and the ugly right, a place where people who hate America can come together and find common ground. It never ceases to amaze me how much the extreme left and the extreme right have in common. I just wish David Duke and Al Sharpton had been visiting Ms. Sheehan on the same day. That would have been gorgeous to see. Either way, we contain multitudes, this nation of ours. Welcome to the tumult.
*I wonder, sometimes, about why I continue to blog. I donÂ’t have an answer. Until I come up with one, I will, like the milkmanÂ’s horse, keep coming back here almost every day and continue to write. Do you know which post of mine takes the most comments? Easily, without comparison, its the one on Welsh hip hop. Click on the category page for that topic and marvel at how alive that music scene is.
*My Gmail seems to be down. Thank goodness. Jim and I have been torturing each other with School House Rock songs, throwing snatches of lyrics at each other. With my email down, that gives me last word.
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It's funny, my blog-break has me all charged up about blogging again. I have too many blogs in my head to blog, actually! *laughs*
But don't take a blog-vacation because I couldn't bear it. :-(
Posted by: Amber at August 30, 2005 06:11 PM (zQE5D)
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It's just Beal. Take two cocktails and call me in the morning.
Blawg when/where/what you want. We'll leave the light on.
Posted by: Margi at August 31, 2005 03:33 AM (nwEQH)
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Funny about the Schoolhouse Rock. Yesterday I stumbled on a clip from the old animated
hankerin' for a hunk of cheese commercials from my childhood and can't get that tune out of my head...
Posted by: Jennifer at August 31, 2005 10:57 AM (jl9h0)
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Jennifer, Hanker for a Hunk of Cheese is one of my favorites.
Along with:
If you'd like to console me I'd love a big hug
If you want to reward me a kiss would be great
Oh I don't need a cookie to make me feel better
Cause love can work wonders without adding weight!
Posted by: Helen at August 31, 2005 11:31 AM (ID3Q+)
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I think a blog is mostly a journal, with a bit of chat room mixed in. There have always been good reasons to keep journals. Blogs just make them accessible to everyone immediately.
Once in a while I feel like quitting (and once, a year ago, I did). But when I go back into the archives I find old stuff I'm glad I wrote, saved a few memories, like old snapshots you find in a box in the closet. It's not great art, but it's meaningful to me, and those who are near and dear. And it's so cheering to get comments too, the immediate feedback, "yes, that happened to me," or "I know what you mean," and the enrichment you get from other people's views and experiences.
We humans have such a drive to express ourselves, and those of us who lean toward the written word as our means of expression are lucky to be living during this blog explosion, I think.
I enjoy reading you, RP!
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August 26, 2005
As the ref's whistle blows, this week is over, all but the injury time
The week, thankfully, is drawing to a close. It was a miserable week, by and large. I am not sorry to see it go, no matter how spendthrift that makes me seem with the small amount of time granted to me on this earth. I'm happy to pretend that this week was no different from trying to hold water in my hands, that the week had to drain away no matter what I did. That's the good thing about time, right? That it wounds all heels, or something?
Still, the week has ended / is ending on a positive note and I shall reflect on the highlights here:
*Thank you all for the very kind comments you left and for the private emails you sent me. It was an unlooked for, unexpected kindness, the best kind really.
*Dinner with Simon was really a bright spot. We happily chatted away for 3+ hours and I think it could have been more if I didn't have to catch a train.
*I will note that most weeks generally will not include a trip to the dentist among a list of highlights but this was not most weeks. Being out of the office was just grand. No matter how much discomfort.
*I already had a screening interview for a new job here in NYC. Keeping my fingers crossed. The interview went smashingly well, so we'll just have to see. If it works out, it will mean a career change. That sounds very nice at this point in time. Very nice.
*Just the same, I had a new client come in today for a preliminary consultation. A young guy, younger than me, but successful. Sounds like a nifty little case and one I'd enjoy doing. I'll quote him a fee on Monday and see if he wants to retain me. When I say little, I don't mean to demean him or his 7 figure plus problem, I just mean that it felt very self-contained. But I already see a couple of places where I could change that, change the dynamic of the interactions he's had with the defendants and maybe blow things up a bit. Like starting with disqualifying the defendants' law firm. That always upsets people.
*My kids were flat out joys to be around this week. No qualification possible. I may have the cutest kids in the whole world. Last night, I read "The Enormous Crocodile", by Roald Dahl, to the Girl Child. Couldn't help myself at the end, when Trunky the Elephant is swinging the Enormous Croc around and the Croc says, "Let me go!", from then saying/singing: "I will not let you go . .Let me go. . .I will not let you go. . .Let me go". Shameless, I am. After the reading, the Boy Child crawled up onto the Girl Child's bed and, at the invitation of the Girl Child, lay his little curly blond head on her lap so she could stroke his hair and forehead. He looked up at her and told her that he loved her. I wanted to cry. It was that beautiful, that perfect. Makes all the work stuff seem trivial.
*I got another expression of interest from another head hunter about some in house compliance positions. May not go anywhere at all, but you know what? It don't got to go no where. See, what it is, is hope. Hope is a powerful and uplifting emotion. It can pull you out of the dumps, let you lift your head up and contemplate the horizon a little. Once you see the horizon, you know that the shitty place you may be in at the moment can and will be a memory. Hope lets you imagine a different future and when your present doesn't amuse, a different future is a wonderful thing to be able to muse about. So, I'm enjoying my little shot of hope. I'm even a bit buzzed on it, truth be told. I can see myself in that future and, even if it turns out to suck, it least it would be a different kind of suck. Right?
*Another high point may be that these horrible peasant skirts which are all the rage this summer could be reaching their natural end. I have yet to see a woman look good in a peasant skirt. Really. I wish the fashion industry would stop being run by people who hate women.
I'll leave you with this, which a friend sent me. Seems appropriate:
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So very glad to see you are still with us.
; )
Posted by: Christina at August 26, 2005 03:27 PM (zJsUT)
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Glad and relieved to see you posting, and sending you the best for this weekend (and the hunting of your head).
Posted by: Mandarin at August 26, 2005 04:13 PM (+eH+G)
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Here's to hope.
Cheers, my friend. (klink)
Posted by: Wicked H at August 26, 2005 06:06 PM (BQhBn)
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LOVE the story about your kids. With my hormones, I would have just cried. Very sweet.
I'm glad you have hope. Good luck with all the feelers you have out there...near or far.
You're right...peasant skirts suck. So, FUKITOL!
(I might have to steal that graphic from you)
Posted by: Linda at August 26, 2005 09:23 PM (4gch1)
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Glad the weekend began on a positive note for you.
I may have to borrow that bit about hope, as I've never seen it quite so eloquently phrased.
Posted by: phin at August 26, 2005 10:07 PM (DGPlf)
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Here's to weeks of nothing but goodness ahead, to compensate for the horrid one just past.
I'm glad it's behind you. Hope it stays there.
And hey! It's Saturday!
Posted by: Jennifer at August 27, 2005 09:56 AM (1X5Jq)
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I cried anyway and I only READ about the kids! God, that was sweet..
And I love Fukitol. Much better than that the Haldol I used to take. ;-P
And great good luck on the new job! A career change, you say? WOW! Awesome! Good luck! :-)
Posted by: Amber at August 27, 2005 02:08 PM (zQE5D)
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Oh yeah, man - FUCK IT ALL! All the small shit, that is like work, and uh, let's see - Oh yeah, and work!!! And bosses, they suck, too!
Not to sound cavalier, but since my line of work is continually fraught with job's ending and new ones beginning, I got over the fear of not having any income a long time ago. Keep your nose to the grindstone a little, and there will always be an opportunity!!!
In the meantime, family is what is important!!!!!
But you already know that, don't you?
Posted by: Mark at August 27, 2005 06:32 PM (wUA3u)
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Well, it could be worse. You could have gone and bought that house in New Orleans.
I, of course, don't mean to make light of the situation in N.O.
Posted by: Jessica at August 28, 2005 11:44 PM (9wQUZ)
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Hope is a place where you can endure the unendurable for a protracted length of time, until the magic happens and you're there.
Last summer I was where you are now, but hope is what sustained me and embracing the vision of what I wanted took care of the rest. Where I am today is truly in love with my job at 3 months in. I know you'll get there too. You are both deserving and good.
Posted by: Michele at August 30, 2005 01:21 AM (W0yQM)
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Sad - that you had such a dumpy week.
Happy - that you found bright spots anyway (then again, with kids, it's not so much finding the bright spots as letting them find you)
Jealous - of dinner with Simon.
Wondering - if you've considered Atlanta. Hehe
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August 17, 2005
Black tie
I have to say that I really enjoy shopping for suits. It is a hugely tactile experience for me. I almost close my eyes and walk down the rack for my size and run my fingers along the suits, stopping only when I hit some fabric that feels especially fine. Then and only then do I look at the suit and the pattern. In the first instance, its all about the material, baby. Its gotta be wool and its gotta feel good. Don't let someone tell you that there isn't a difference between suit manufacturers or that all the suits are the same or that wool is wool. Wool is most certainly not just wool. Really.
Today, I went to my favorite store. Don't ask for the name, they're doing just fine without my plug and I don't want to have to fight to get in there, ok? It is not a street level men's store and they don't rely on walk in customers. In fact, I don't even think that there's a sign in the lobby. And when you get to the door, you have to be buzzed in. At least you don't have to knock three times first.
I went because I needed a new tuxedo. I have lost a bit of weight and my old one cannot be taken in as much as it needs to be taken in. I looked like a kid playing dress up in his father's clothes when I tried it on. Also, I realized, looking at my calendar, that I am going to be wearing black tie at least six times between September 1 and December 31. So, I bought one and, like with any suit, I chose between two models and picked the one with the better feeling wool.
What did I get, you may ask? Or maybe you don't care. Well, I'm gonna tell you anyway, so there.
I bought a beautiful Hickey Freeman tuxedo for about 60% off. See, the fabric has to feel good but the deal has to also feel good. Welcome to NY. The deal has to be there. Only suckers pay retail in NY. Or really rich people. I know I'm not rich and I like to think I am not a sucker, or at least rarely. Hickey Freeman makes beautiful, exceptionally constructed suits out of gorgeous materials. The only better off the rack suit is Oxxford and I cannot afford them, even on sale.
The tuxedo has a shawl collar. This is not something you see so often but I am enough of a clothes horse to want one. With a shawl collar you don't look like you are either wearing just a black suit or are part of the catering staff.
It looks like this:

Something about the shape and drape of the collar and the whole jacket just feels like a throw back to the 1920's and 1930's. Just something very elegant about the look and the statement it makes. Another nice thing about it is that you do not look like everybody else when wearing a shawl collar. Subtly, you stand out a bit. And that's not at all a bad thing, it seems to me.
Now, I just have to talk my wife into letting me go back and get some new suits. They're having a sale and the fabrics were to die for, as my grandmother used to say.
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What I want to know about are the shoes. What shoes do you wear with a tux?
Posted by: lawmom at August 17, 2005 04:54 PM (XhYQ0)
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I love shawl collars on a tuxedo. Excellent choice.
Posted by: Jordana at August 18, 2005 11:40 AM (eWY7n)
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Shawl collars look great on tuxedos. Always and forever---and because they rarely change, like lapels do, you'll get a lot more wear out of it.
My only question is did you get black or midnight blue? I read once that when purchasing a tuxedo you were always supposed to get the midnight blue, because it looked blacker than black. Whereas with a black, there might be a greenish tint to it.
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I tie my own bowties. I assume you do as well? Nothing worse than a clip-on. Not that I get to wear a tux so much anymore.
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August 16, 2005
Shopping on the internet for another life
I do that sometimes. Hell, everyone does that sometimes. The internet makes it easy. You sit at your desk and you click through possible job openings in related fields and, with a click of a button, you apply for jobs in Salt Lake City and Los Angeles and Chicago. All places you don't really want to live in, mind you, but they kind of have to be far away to qualify for other life status. A move to a far away place is an integral requirement for this out of current life fantasy.
Or you think, gee, what happens if the money actually comes in from whatever (inheritance, some big case, lottery, or that old mine you bought so many years ago when the price of that mineral was at next to nothing), where would you move to? And you click on real estate listings in whatever city catches your interest at that particular moment.
Today, that was New Orleans, the city of some of my mis-spent youth. I played around with the real estate listings, knowing all the while that I would really have to be out of my head completely if I decided to ever move back there or own property there. Seriously, all the mature indicia augur against any such decision. In short, it would be stupid.
But then you allow the domestic architecture to seduce you. You realize you could own a 130 year old house with a staircase that looks like this:

And you think to yourself, maybe it wouldn't be so bad living back down there. I mean, that house is gorgeous, isn't it?
I have never lived in a city as house proud as New Orleans. I used to love, just love, driving around and looking. To my great fortune, I was friends with some very socially prominent people down there and thus invited into some of the grander houses for Mardi Gras house parties. To see these houses was a real privilege.
I miss the houses. I miss the city. I seriously doubt I could ever live there again, no matter how much I want to fantasize about it.
My wife is so patient with me when I get like this. IÂ’m a lucky guy.
Still, that wanderlust is rising. . .
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To some extent I believe that reading blogs is a way to try on another life. How else can you listen in on someone else's thoughts and see life through their eyes?
Posted by: Angie at August 16, 2005 04:48 PM (PQx1b)
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I married a woman who not only put up with those moods, but went along with it when I finally quit my job, told Southern California to kiss my ass, and moved back home to Oregon. Neither of us regrets it.
Posted by: Brian B at August 16, 2005 05:52 PM (CouWh)
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Ah, but the wonderful thing about New Orleans? It's a fabulous place to visit. Well, and often.
Thank you for all of the great tips and information. The city? She stole my heart, I'm afraid...
Posted by: Jennifer at August 16, 2005 07:35 PM (DOcmJ)
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To live in New Orleans the way I would like to live in New Orleans, I would have to be fabulously wealthy and have the option of working.
I love that place.
That house looks fab, too!
Posted by: Christina at August 17, 2005 10:04 AM (zJsUT)
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Geez, if you don't want it I wonder if I could afford that staircase.
You only live once...
Posted by: Jessica at August 17, 2005 10:43 AM (9wQUZ)
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I think Angie hit it on the head. Reading is a vicarious thrill. To some extent we are all beneficient parasites to each others lives.
And I, for one, wouldn't have it any other way. :-)
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August 15, 2005
Disaster Planning
Background
It was around 4:00 yesterday afternoon. The kids were napping, I was updating security software on the laptop, the Yankees game was on mute on the television, the a/c was humming away quietly, and classical music was playing on the radio. Then the storm hit and it hit with a fury. Lightening flashing, thunder booming, and the rain coming down fast and heavy, driven against the house by the wind.
*POP* Out go the lights, out goes everything powered by electricity. Everything. Including the sump pumps in the basement, it just occurred to me. Gotta check that tonight. Oh, well. Hopefully that will be ok.
The kids were still napping but when they woke up, just like that, they were knocked out of our century. We lit the house with candles in whatever rooms we were in -- none of the candles were left unattended. Too scary a thought. My wife ordered pizza in for dinner and after dinner we all played on the floor of the den and then all over the house. The kids were tumbling over each other like puppies. It was adorable. And the house looked pretty nice in the candle light. It was an interesting exercise, a throwback to times past.
Connecticut was hit pretty hard by this storm. The mayor of Stamford compared it to some horrible ice storm in the 1930's.
And we were totally unprepared. Well, not totally. We did have flashlights and candles, canned food and cell phones, bottled water and other things. But, we were fortunate in that we just happened to have this stuff from prior storms and prior incidents. We've done very little in the way of major storm planning.
So, I'm going to do that here and invite comments. I am fortunate in having somehow attracted some terribly smart people to my blog (why, I have no idea) and I'm going to take advantage of it now and ask for your thoughts on disaster planning.
The Plan
*Enough flashlights for every person in the house
*Extra supply of fresh batteries
*Good battery powered radio
*First aid kit
*Figure out how to open garage door when power fails
*Make sure cars are gassed up in advance of major storm predicted
*Buy a couple of battery powered camping table lights
*Establish emergency supply of bottled water
*Get shelf stable milk in small packages for Boy Child
*Make sure to have several rolls of duct tape (hey, you never know)
*In advance of storm arrival, unplug all sensitive electronics
*In advance of storm arrival, turn fridge and freezer to coldest setting and move some of the ice packs from freezer into fridge.
*In advance of storm, make sure cell phones are charged.
*Keep emergency cash in the house.
*Post list of not commonly used phone numbers on door of fridge -- power company, water company, telephone company, etc.
*Make sure that there is a princess phone for use when power outage takes out wireless phone system.
*Make sure that you have enough shelf stable (i.e., canned or dried) food for at least three meals. More than that you ought to probably get out of the house, it seems to me.
*In advance of storm, run dishwasher to make sure you have clean dishes and place for dirty ones.
*For winter, make sure that you have some wood to burn in the fireplace since the furnace will go out, according to the nice oil company lady I just spoke to. Are there viable battery operated heaters?
So, what do you all think? Missing anything important? Including anything silly?
Thanks, in advance, for your thoughts on this.
UPDATE:
Happily, after placing a call to the people who put in the sump pumps for the prior owners, I have learned that the sump pumps are on a back up battery system good for around 6700 gallons of water. I think that I will not have to worry about the basement. Which is nice.
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Maybe throw in a few extra mecessities like flashlights and batteries for any nearby neighbors. That way, if you have forgotten anything that they might have, you could trade...or, of course, just accumulate some good karma.
Posted by: Jessica at August 15, 2005 11:12 AM (9wQUZ)
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Take it from me, I learned the hard way. You need a generator for the sump pumps and when you run them they need to be outside not inside the house.
Posted by: Wicked H at August 15, 2005 11:24 AM (iqFar)
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I've been through several earthquakes, plus a riot. I'd say overall that your list may be a little too complicated. I would move emergency cash to the top, along with the battery radio; some of the other stuff, like the camping light, can probably go. The suggestion about the generators is very good. It's possible to buy disaster kits; you can check at the store for what they include.
I would also look at your appliances -- do you have any older ones on natural gas that need to have pilots re-lit? If so, you may want to get some very long matches to relight same, and possibly bone up on the procedures. You won't get utility response soon after a disaster.
Posted by: John Bruce at August 15, 2005 11:35 AM (bdQSO)
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Goodness, it's like one of those disaster movies from the 70's.
Just relax, it'll be ok.
If you do need to plan, all you need is a cell phone, some beer and Oreos (fruit juice and sandwich materials for the kids). It's good to have flashlights, etc around, and I always keep some bottled water available.
Think about it this way-if you had been prepared with the flashlights and the Coleman camping stove, etc...wouldn't you have missed as wonderful an evening as it sounded like you had?
I'm just saying. I do keep flashlights on hand, but I also know when electricity has handed me a blessing by cutting off and offering me a book and some candlelight
Posted by: Helen at August 15, 2005 11:46 AM (ATx6T)
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PS-it's worth noting that I have been in every kind of disaster known to man, with the exception of a house fire (knock on wood). Earthquake, tornadoes, hurricanes, blizzards, wind storms, a riot, electrical storms, and yes-one volcano eruption. "Roll with the punches" is something I understand.
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Walkie talkies. Camping stove. Anything that can keep you dry and warm. Matches. Extra newspaper to start the fire. Pencil/pen and paper in a reliable place.
That's all I got for now...will keep thinking.
Posted by: CJ at August 15, 2005 02:09 PM (0yCni)
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Ummm, a couple of days worth of bottled drinking water.
I lived through the 500 year flood twelve years ago in Iowa. The water works for the entire city was flooded and there was no potable water for weeks for a quarter million people. And I mean weeks. In case something similar happens, you'll want bottled water on hand because a. all the stores will sell out very quickly and b. it generally takes days for the stores to be reloaded and the National Guard can help only so many people, eh?
I would also highly recommend duct tape and a pair of wellies, just in case you have to go through sludge.
Posted by: Kathy at August 15, 2005 03:54 PM (QKvIa)
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Fill the tub--sometimes the water system will go down & you'll be glad you have it to help flush the toilets (learned the hard way through Hurricane Andrew). If you have enough warning, fill up a cooler or two with ice.
Posted by: Phyllis at August 15, 2005 04:48 PM (NFind)
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Carry a cigarette lighter in your pocket. It's great to have flashlights and candles; it's not so great to bump into half of the walls and furnituyre while you feel your way around for them. You can't keep a lighter burning, though, so you **click**, take a few steps, let it go out and wait a few seconds (maybe blow on it to cool it), repeat until you've got your hands on a flashlight. Learned that the hard way. I've got candles in my room, but definately need the lighter to find them.
Posted by: Tuning Spork at August 15, 2005 07:11 PM (wJRvr)
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cash.
my sister got stuck in the south bronx with almost no gas...and no cash on 9/11.
this day and age i never really carry any...well - i do now.
Posted by: sn at August 15, 2005 08:50 PM (cHOGW)
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You didn't mention any sort of first aid kit. At the very least, you should have several days worth of any prescription meds your family might need.
Posted by: owlish at August 15, 2005 10:25 PM (kVnh2)
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When we were iced into our house in Nashville without electricity for a solid week, we used our cast iron dutch oven stove from my great great grandmother (probablu from the early 1900s or so) to make stews using the coals in our fireplace. Nothing high tech, and we used alot of the dry goods we had on hand for it.
When we got tired of that, though, we ate cold pop tarts.
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Champagne ........... always always have champagne.
Posted by: Mia at August 16, 2005 02:18 PM (B6Pag)
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ohhhhh and maple syrup.
Actually a few tins of condensed (sweet) milk would be a good idea.
Posted by: Mia at August 16, 2005 02:20 PM (B6Pag)
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I agree with the above- Cash, flashlights, candles, water... And T.P.
A stock of paper cups and plates wouldn't hurt either.
Thanks for the link!!
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One year at the beginning of hurricane season in Florida my husband came home from a trip and said, "Why did you buy C batteries?"
I said, "Because batteries were on the Hurricane Preparedness List published in the newspaper."
He said, "We don't have anything that takes C batteries."
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Slightly off subject, but this is the second time today someone has mentioned this storm. We happened to be in Westport on Sunday (stopping off at the in-laws). The storm was certainly intense for a little bit where we were, but nothing really out of the ordinary. The power never even flickered. Interesting.
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The only thing I can add to the impeccable advice above? A sense of humor. Always, always keep it on hand, and don't leave - or go - home without it.
Posted by: Jennifer at August 16, 2005 07:37 PM (DOcmJ)
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If you're going to plan, plan for a bad one. More food, more water, more candles, more batteries. A week's worth of stable food at least, same for water, along with purification tabs to make extra water safe.
Don't forget supplies for any pets you have.
Axe or hatchet, and a good bow saw.
Tarps. Rope, cord, twine, string, etc. It would be hard to keep too much rope.
Chemical glow sticks for the kids instead of candles, for night lights and on stairs and such. Easier, safer, and conserves batteries.
Someone gave an excellent idea above about filling the tub. Also fill any sinks. And if it looks really bad, any buckets, rinsed out milk jugs and pretty much anything else that'll hold water. Water is going to be the one thing that's absolutely necessary to survive. And if the municipal supply gets contaminated, it takes time to become safe again.
Posted by: Ted at August 17, 2005 12:30 PM (blNMI)
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I love the part about running the dishwasher before a storm. Made me laugh.
Paper, my man, paper plates, plastic utensils, paper cups. Industrial-sized trashbags for many reasons. Be sure wallets, purses, etc are where you can get them in a hurry in case you're running out the door.
Posted by: Howard at August 17, 2005 05:14 PM (u2JaN)
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Brookstones sells the Ready Lite flashlight that requires no batteries. Although I couldn't find a link for you, I bought the all in one radio, cell phone charger, flashlight that is self-generating by winding a handle for a minute. I'll save a fortune in batteries.
In my disaster kit is water purifying tablets, clorox and some medical supplies. Don't forget a manual can opener!
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August 14, 2005
The box picture
Well, since you all asked, here's the picture I took of the garage, filled with boxes after three straight days of unpacking.

Scary, huh?
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Fire hazard! Get those boxes broken down and in to the recycling! I like the one marked "heavy". Why tip off the movers? It's so much more entertaining to watch them bust a gut without warning???
Posted by: Mark at August 14, 2005 03:07 PM (LFqk8)
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Oh how frighteningly familiar.
Posted by: Stephen Macklin at August 14, 2005 04:37 PM (ics4u)
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Whoa... how in hell did you get a picture of my basement?
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August 12, 2005
A rare time
I was detained, last night, by evil companions (a good friend and my wife) and only managed 5 hours of sleep. That's ok, all you need is five hours if you then go and mortify the flesh in the gym for about two hours. Indeed, that's also a good way to make walking later too painful to do much of. But back to last night.
I went with a dear friend who is an international expert on rare books and manuscripts and toured some of the highlights of a private book and manuscript collection at a private club here in New York City. Seeing and handling rare books is a pretty interesting experience. I don't have the rare book bug, although I probably could catch it if I let myself. Its just that I lack the time, the money, and the education. I have the inclination, at least mildly, but the inclination by itself will not a collection build. Which is good. Collections are a responsibility and I'm never really certain who owns whom. Does the collector own the collection or does the collection, which requires special care and storage and handling and security and professional care, own the collector?
This collection had some highlights and I was really very fortunate to be able to touch and admire the following:
*Mark Catesby's Natural History of Carolina, Florida and the Bahama Islands (London 1771). Catesby predated Audubon and his drawings of birds and plants were so extraordinarily colorful, even after some 230 years and so lifelike. It was the first natural history of America. We didn't look at the fish, but maybe another time.
Catesby's Natural History of Carolina, Florida, & The Bahama Islands is one of the great achievements of Anglo-American science in the eighteenth- century. Catesby's great folio plates provided the means by which Europeans could view the natural produce of North American and thus were a part of the continuing discovery of the continent. Most of Catesby's figures were based on watercolor sketches that he made in the field or upon specimens made available to him in England. The work remained a major source for the study of American plants and animals through its own century and even into the next.
Source.
HereÂ’s one of his prints of the Teal (blue winged):

Regrettably, when his books come up for auction, they are often bought by dealers who cut them up and sell the prints individually. I think thatÂ’s cultural vandalism, personally.
*Ptolmey's Geographica (Venice 1511). This was one of the most interesting of the renaissance version of the atlas and while they corrected some of Ptolmey's mistakes, they couldn't bring themselves to correct all of them. Especially noteworthy is that this contained the first map that showed North America, or so I'm told. A nice link here. Here's the map. Love the little putti:

I think the thing that most blew me away with this printing was the title page. It was in red and in the form of an inverted pyramid, I assume in homage to Egypt. It was such a modern feeling graphical design presentation and the red was so beautiful. So exceptional.
*A couple of examples from the William Morris printing house, Kelmscott Press. These were rich, lush and detailed printings. Stunning stuff. You can see some examples here. A nice collection of information on Morris here. We then saw the 1903 printing of the Doves Bible by Cobden Sanderson, a protege of Morris, who rejected the rich and lush look for a much more sparse and very powerful look. Cobden Sanderson believed that the font stood for itself and should be powerful enough to support the work by itself. Here is the first page from the Doves Bible, one of the most famous pages in printing history, I'm told:

Pretty impressive, no?
*Leaving out some of the Renaissance era architectural books we looked at, at my request, we also looked at sketches and drawing by George Cruikshank, a noted satirist and caricaturist of the 1800's, in the tradition of Hogarth. The drawings were marvelous, a collection of full out water colors in exquisite detail all the way down to doodles he did, and signed, on the backs of envelopes and receipts for erasers. My favorite was a very powerful unfinished sketch for a series of illustrations for Milton's Paradise Lost. The edition was never published and Cruikshank destroyed the plates and the drawings, except for this one. It was quite a thrill to see it, to know that I was looking at something that existed nowhere else. Cruikshank also painted wonderful animals -- dogs and horses, in the best tradition of an English artist, it seems to me. The Fine Arts Museum of San Francisco has a large collection of his works and many of the images are online.
We finished off the visit with an hour long drink with the curator as we chatted about wonderful rare books he had seen in the course of his long career. A very real book nerd evening. After he left, we adjourned for dinner.
All in all, an outstanding night. It is really quite an experience to hold a book published in 1511. Makes one feel a little less important in the grand scheme of things, which may not be so bad at all in our very individual focused society.
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I just stumbled across your page somehow and read this entry. It reminded me of the excitement I felt when I handled some first editions of Galileo and Copernicus in the rare books room of my university library a few weeks ago. I couldn't help but think how many hands of people i've only read about have touched those books over the past hundreds of years. I also couldn't help but think they really shouldn't let me be touching them.
Posted by: Jessica at August 12, 2005 03:57 PM (9wQUZ)
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I think old books are fascinating.
There was a rare bookstore in London I happened across last fall. I had to go in.
There's almost a reverence when handling them. Of course, the only one I was allowed to touch that was more than a couple of hundred years old was a child's primer. The "scribblings" inside were familiar, in a deliberate and elegant sort of way.
The voyeur I am, I am always hoping to run across an ancient diary or journal.
; )
Posted by: Christina at August 13, 2005 09:47 PM (zJsUT)
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I'm just amazed that books survive in as good a shape as they do. Growing up, my mother had some older books in the bookcase. The oldest one, from about 1840, was a volume of Lord Tenneyson. The pages were not only brown, they were very brittle. They cracked if you turned the page too roughly. Many of the pages were broken from the spine, many had missing corners. It must been low-quality paper because the other books were fine.
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August 11, 2005
I know nothing
IÂ’ve been musing a bit about knowledge. How do we know what we know and why do we think we know it? IÂ’m sure that philosophers and just philosophy majors have spent years and years debating these questions and have honed them down into a manageable mess. I am not a philosopher and I did not major in philosophy. Nor, for that matter, have I read much philosophy, preferring to leave my mind uncluttered to better appreciate the simple pleasures of beer and baseball, preferably at the same time. So, I bring no baggage to these questions.
My musings were prompted by a book IÂ’m reading. My dad gave it to me, I threw it into my bag and forgot about it. It isnÂ’t heavy, so carting it around without remembering I had it for several months was no hardship. I found it this week when I went digging for my as of yet not located notary stamp. Damn that stamp. Anyway, the book, One Nation Under Therapy : How the Helping Culture is Eroding Self-Reliance , is interesting. One chapter in particular got my attention. The chapter on grief counseling and grief therapy.
Basically, the book asserts, the long held and widely held beliefs that you need therapy to deal with your grief, that you need to vent, to share your emotions and how you feel about your loss, is a bunch of hooey. The belief doesnÂ’t stand up to scientific review. In fact, for some, therapy simply prolongs the grief. The book notes that the 5 stages of grief that have become common cultural touchstones are in fact a distortion of the work of the shrink who came up with it. The 5 stages were not meant to apply to survivors but to people who had just been told that they had an incurable disease. Interesting, no? Pretty much anyone you ask will tell you (I know, over-generalization but, hey, its my blog) that grief and recovery from follow certain recognized pathways, right?
I paid particular attention to this because of the state my grandfather is in, you know.
Well, how is it that this is thought to be true if it isn’t? How do we “know” something? How can we be certain we know something?
We learn things by hearing them or by reading them. We rarely examine primary sources or conduct experiments ourselves. In fact, I think that for most things, we are probably three or four, at best, stages removed from the knowledge. The experiment is performed and the results are observed. Stage 1. The results are written up in a paper and presented somewhere. Stage 2. The results are then published in a journal. Maybe Stage 3 maybe just another stage 2. Then someone, maybe someone with no science training, writes an article about the report. Stage 4. That article is read or skimmed in the newspaper by the consumer. Stage 5. Public exposure of the article results in, maybe, a television appearance in which someone long removed from the experiment discusses the experiment and the results. Rarely is it the scientist. Stage 6. Maybe you’ve caught the 120 seconds of television airtime summarizing the article that summarized the report that summarized the experiment. And you become guided by it. Maybe you repeat what you think you’ve learned to your friends or co-workers, always with the authoritative phrase, “studies show” without really knowing that maybe it was just one experiment. Stage 7. And then we have public knowledge. Far removed, in 7 approximate stages, from the experiment and totally dumbed down.
That is how as best as I can figure out, knowledge becomes widely spread. At best, for most of us, we get our knowledge at Stage 4, the article. At worst, Stage 7. It doesnÂ’t have to mean that the knowledge we obtain is unreliable, but it doesnÂ’t bode well for a high reliability factor, does it, not when I break it down like this, right?
Sometimes we learn from school and from text books and from lectures from teachers or experts. Again, we are asked to accept the “knowledge” imparted in the book or from the lecture. We are asked to accept it as true. But we all know that information in this context is rarely complete and that information is often distorted by outside political forces. Take, for example, textbooks. Textbooks are often reviewed for “sensitivity” issues, for whether they may give offense to other cultures. In that regard, how can we ever accept, uncritically, anything that ever appears in a textbook, again, knowing that the contents have been, perhaps, distorted? Don’t believe me? Go forth and see what Diane Ravitch has said about some of these things (and then throw up):
*Diane on Math and
*Diane on Language Police.
So what can we do? I think that when you have the time, you should read and read critically the source material that an assertion claims to be premised upon. Grief counseling evidently rests on a very shaky foundation of science, or so the book claims in synthesizing the research of others. Don’t accept the bland “studies show” assertion. Go find out for yourself. Inform yourself, educate yourself, empower yourself.
But do it selectively. I mean, at some level, you have to trust or at least decide that the matter isnÂ’t important enough for you to spend the time researching and you might as well accept what you read. Reductio ab absurdum and you find yourself repeating NewtonÂ’s experiments on gravity or learning ancient Greek because you donÂ’t trust the Sophocles criticism you were reading. So, clearly, at some level, it canÂ’t be taken too far. I assume we all, intuitively, know what that level is. If not, good luck figuring it out.
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RP, you make my brain hurt.
Posted by: Rob at August 11, 2005 12:54 PM (i3q83)
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I agree for many people grief therapy is not necessary and even harmful, as it brings back the event or events back to the surface again and again every visit that they have with the therapist.
I don't entirely agree that people shouldn't have a venue to vent. My wife saw a therapist for a couple years and the first year was basically mostly that, because she didn't have a venue to vent it was alot of pushed down emotions etc. that had been polluting her psyche. She couldn't talk to her friends or family, and she didn't want to burden me with it, so she just kept it all inside.
7th hand information is dangerous, just look at the so-called political blogger who bases their information from a blog who blogged about something someone else blogged about from a blog where they read about a news story about....etc etc. How reliable would those "facts" be?
Good post RP, and thanks for the links.
Posted by: Oorgo at August 11, 2005 02:32 PM (lM0qs)
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Great post!
For myself I found that when I began to attend college in my late 40s that I had to rethink many things that I thought I "knew." Its been a great experience and it has taught me to do some searching before I accept "knowledge" from perhaps unreliable sources. Of course sometimes the difficulty is deciding on the reliability of many sources that I once considered very reliable.
Thanks for the reminder!
dee
Posted by: dee at August 11, 2005 02:47 PM (sZnML)
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Good stuff! It (very tangentially, anyway) ties in somewhat to my current thinking about what branch of Psychology really will make sense for me if (when) I get into grad school. I'd kind of assumed that Social Psychology was my field, but the more I read, I realize that SocPsych deals with just this phenomenon -- manipulation of the facts -- whether intentionally or not.
This has lead me to a question that (I assume) philosophers have pondered for all time: What *is* truth, anyway? (Circling back 'round to your post...)
The same world event, covered by FOXNews, CNN, and NPR will read/sound like three very different stories. Which best reflects reality? I know I tend to trust NPR more than FOXNews, for instance, but is that just my own bias at work? (Of course it is, but how much?)
Anyway, the study of manipulation is NOT what I have in mind for grad school, and I'm starting to think that Developmental may need to be my primary field. I'll continue checking out textbooks from the library, and someday, it will (I hope) make sense. The general topic I want to study is this: How do we become who we are? Broad, I know...but it took me into my 30s to really figure me out, and I wish someone had helped me stop wasting time sooner!
Posted by: Allison at August 11, 2005 04:42 PM (ddjrP)
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Ben and I heard a segment of "This American Life" the other day which I am reminded of after reading your post. The speaker said he overheard people talking about furniture and design, taking what little bit they had heard somewhere that made sense to them and stuck, and then expounding on it as if they had spent years studying it. Then, he said, one of the poeple talking about design and furniture said "Don't listen to me, I'm just quoting from 'Modern Jackass'." It made sense to Ben and I immediately, since we all know how that works. How do we know what we know? Now, when we start talking about something in that manner, one or the other of us will say "To quote 'Modern Jackass'". I think this is one of those memes that's wandering around right now.
Posted by: Mandalei at August 11, 2005 05:03 PM (sg0po)
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A politician said it best: 'As we know, there are known knowns. There are things we know we know. We also know there are known unknowns. That is to say we know there are some things we do not know. But there are also unknown unknowns, the ones we don't know we don't know.'
Posted by: Simon at August 11, 2005 11:41 PM (UKqGy)
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While I do think that the stages of grief can be applicable to all types of grief and not simply the reaction to an critical illness, there has been, despite the authors original intent, to great of an adherence to the "stages" as an absolute and orderly procession of events. They were merely clarifications of what she saw, and a recognition that, for example, it was perfectly normal to deny that one had an illness and not a sign of psychotic thinking. They weren't meant as checklists.
In terms of schools; well that is why so many people are turning to homeschooling. I see nothing wrong with depicting mom with a drill and dad with a fry pan, as another example, nor with teaching math through science or history or all subjects in a more gestalt manner, but to distort history and to teach politics instead of math (as Diane has described)---well that is absurd and deteremental to children.
Posted by: Rachel Ann at August 12, 2005 09:27 AM (1Uvu9)
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Hey! Whatta ya know! Studies show that we're all individuals!!
I'm so not mocking you, my dear -- I'm mocking the "learned" doctors who feel it necessary to categorize everyone and everything. Sheesh.
I mean, really. Take a look at an "expert witness" list sometime.
Posted by: Margi at August 12, 2005 01:17 PM (nwEQH)
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Just read your links to Diane Ravitch. Unbefreakinlievable.
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August 09, 2005
Comments, etc.
Comments, as I have noted before, are the best thing about blogging. Comments make it more like making love and less like intellectual masturbation.
I hit a milestone, yesterday, when Tuning Spork left me my 3000th comment since coming to MuNu. Wow. 3000 comments. I am really very grateful and a little bit overwhelmed by the number.
Rob said it the best on his blog, in referring to the people who comment on my blog:
You have, without a doubt- The best collection of "commenters" I have seen, bar none.
Rob is right. Y'all are the best! Thanks so much for making this worthwhile for me.
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Oh, no. Please, thank you!
Posted by: Wicked H at August 09, 2005 01:33 PM (iqFar)
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Congrats, RP! Someday when I grow up, I too shall have a nifty batch of commenters. Even if I have to enlist all my personalities.
*sigh* Now I have "commenter" envy.
Great.
Posted by: Rob at August 09, 2005 01:48 PM (Gkhif)
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You deserve the visits & comments, You deserve the high praise. The quality of your writing and your wit is what compels us to return.
Posted by: michele at August 09, 2005 07:39 PM (ZUSFz)
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I think why RP gets such great comments is there's a lot of respect there. You will almost never see someone calling you names, or talking crap, because you don't put up with it and we/they know it.
Plus your stories are great! Sometimes it's hard NOT to leave a comment.
Posted by: Oorgo at August 10, 2005 04:16 PM (lM0qs)
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You have that knack for inviting conversation. I'm jealous.
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August 08, 2005
Adios, Christina
Christina, at
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hanging up her spurs. I will miss her sure handed and spare writing (never a wasted word), her clever insights, her penetrating observations, her sometimes heartrending stories and the terrific anecdotes of her way too smart children. Today, we lose one of the really great ones!
Thanks for the excellent writing and wonderful memories, Christina!
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Bless you for the very kind words, my friend; however, I shall be haunting you here.
; )
Posted by: Christina at August 08, 2005 05:55 PM (zJsUT)
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NO-O-O-O-O-O-O-O!!!!
I didn't visit often enough, but I also loved it when I did. This is a sad day in Munuvia.
Posted by: Tuning Spork at August 08, 2005 09:18 PM (ZgQJ1)
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I've left my incredulity over there but I'll just add an "awshit" over here.
*sniffle*
Posted by: Margi at August 09, 2005 02:39 AM (nwEQH)
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August 03, 2005
In praise of the natural
It was a quiet Sunday afternoon. The kids actually were napping, the wife was working out, the nanny was off at church, the air conditioning was humming away, we were as unpacked as we need to be at this stage of the weekend, and, for the first time in four days, I sat down for more than a moment.
But, I am a man and in some ways a typical man so I could not sit down in my new den without holding the remote. The adult male pacifier. And I could not hold it without using it, of course. But I did strike gold. Conan the Barbarian was only moments away from starting. I settled in to the couch to enjoy, as if for the first time again, the theatrical stylings of the Governator.
This brings me almost to the point of this post. Bet you thought I'd never get there, did you?
While watching this subtle play on the nature of good and evil, on choice and destiny, on nature v. nurture, I kept seeing breasts. There were a bunch of woman naked from the waist up in this cinematic tour de force. Normally, I suppose, I appreciate the naked female form as much as the next red blooded heterosexual male. But something about these breasts struck me as odd. And then it hit me. These breasts were real! That's why they looked so unusual and even, frankly, so nice.
And now we do get to the point. The point is this: real, not surgically enhanced breasts are seldom seen in movies today. They have vanished, much like cigarette adds from television. So much so, that I am wondering whether the natural breast should be added to the California endangered species list, Hollywood Chapter. They should not be allowed to vanish altogether. We should take a stand and demand their return to the big screen.
Seriously, how messed up is it that real breasts stand out on the screen? How many women have undergone cosmetic surgery to "improve" their looks for movies?
I'm reminded of a scene from a movie I can't recall the name of. Steve Martin and Sarah Jessica Parker are fooling around, in LA, and he says that her breasts feel weird and she says that's because they're real.
Could we start a grass roots movement here? Small breasts for the big screen! A rallying cry!
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The movie with S.J.P. and S.M. to which you refer to is L.A. Story. I actually own it AND Conan the Barbarian.
Posted by: Mandalei at August 03, 2005 11:44 AM (sg0po)
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What about large, natural breasts? Hmmmmm? Do they have to be small and natural or just natural?
Just clarifying so I can make an informed choice about my grass roots involvement.
Posted by: CJ at August 03, 2005 12:17 PM (0yCni)
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Yes, what about us buxom ladies? You no like?
Posted by: Wicked H at August 03, 2005 12:22 PM (iqFar)
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Nah, they just have to be natural. I only specified small because I liked the small breast / big screen juxaposition.
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Good save, RP. Good save!
Posted by: Wicked H at August 03, 2005 12:38 PM (iqFar)
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Fortunately it was true! I went back and forth on the rallying cry but decided small/big was more interesting than natural/big.
Posted by: RP at August 03, 2005 12:41 PM (LlPKh)
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Right in there behind you, RP. We should add a bit about curves in there too, I'm sick of seeing these stick figures masquerading as women, bones sticking out, cheeks sunken in. Eat a damn sandwich.
Posted by: Oorgo at August 03, 2005 02:59 PM (lM0qs)
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Ok, ok. I was just clarifying.
I would have been for the small breasts anyway...was just being a pain in the tuckas.
Posted by: CJ at August 03, 2005 04:10 PM (0yCni)
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I was kind of hoping for a "real boobs look funny" movement to come out of this.
Posted by: phin at August 03, 2005 04:44 PM (Xvpen)
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Seeing as how I'm also a fan of natural boobies, big or small, I propose that we change our name to "The Dumbass Thong and Natural Boobie Watchers Society"?
Do you concur?
Posted by: Howard at August 03, 2005 10:45 PM (SMF1T)
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Men can certainly be endearing on occasion...even when they speak of boobage.
; )
Posted by: Christina at August 03, 2005 11:31 PM (zJsUT)
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How 'bout
Breats Are Beautiful -- Natural Ones, That Is... (BABNOTS) ..?
Boobs Oughta Only Be Fake After Non-elective Surgery (BOOBFANS) ..?
Posted by: Tuning Spork at August 03, 2005 11:34 PM (dAxz/)
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I'm really having a hard time getting past my own laughter about the remote being the adult male pacifier to get into the conversation here. LOL On second thought...couldn't the remote AND boobage BOTH be the adult male pacifier?
Posted by: Linda at August 04, 2005 12:24 PM (4gch1)
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My husband prefers natural breasts too; he HATES fake boobs for vanity's sake and will rant forever about how ugly they make a woman look. Large or small, makes no difference, as long as they are REAL.
He also thinks the emphasis on cosmetic surgery is stupid. He points out the women who are letting themselves age gracefully on TV so often, saying beautiful they look that I'm starting to get a complex about it. ;-)
You want me to dye my hair grey now or what, babe? ;-)
In contrast, I know a couple of women whose husbands *expect* them to get cosmetic surgery as they age. They want them to stay looking like young hotties as long as possible and they actually berate them if they gain any weight. Yes, I'm serious. It's simply expected that as their wives they'll put themselves through cosmetic surgery. And their wives accept this eagerly. Unbelievable.
Posted by: Amber at August 04, 2005 02:38 PM (zQE5D)
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RP: I'm staying so far away from this uprising (if you will) and will only cheer you from the comfort of my office. I am married to one who would agree wholeheartedly, but I think if I jumped on the bandwagon -- what with my recent outburst regarding Angelina Joile and his knowing my history of hanging out in "interpretive dance establishments" [Because I could play pool and drink beer in PEACE. Nobody was lookin' at ME!] -- he MIGHT think I'm making a play for the other team!
[Of course, the fact that I'm getting heavier and heavier with child is no reason to dissuade me from my fantasy, you know.]
Oh and Amber? The difference between the former husband and the latter (based on your description) is that the former husband (yours, in fact) loves his wife as a human being not as a trophy wife.
P.S. The worst thing about the extra boobage during pregnancy is there's the annoying visual roadmap of veins to go along with it. Makes finding a low-cut maternity dress pretty much out of the question. Damnit.
P.P.S. Yes. I'm going to bed now as I've been up way too late. *snicker*
Posted by: Margi at August 05, 2005 04:04 AM (nwEQH)
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You want real California breasts? Here you go. Be careful what you wish for, you might get it! (don't say I didn't warn you.)
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http://northernva.typepad.com/crossing_the_rubicon/2005/07/breasts_not_bom.html
Damn - Forgot the link!
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August 02, 2005
I am moved. In, that is.
The movers came, the movers schlepped, the movers worked hard, they nicked walls, they damaged only one piece of furniture, and they left us with our boxes of possessions all over the house, mostly in the correct rooms.
We unpacked, to a minimum level of acceptability, our bedroom. We worked until late and then went out for -- margaritas. Well deserved re-hydration.
The next morning came with no hot water in the house. Someone had turned the furnace off, kindly meant, to not burn oil without the need. I turned the furnace back on and promptly it filled the furnace room with smoke and fumes. Service call one. The oil company. Hot water was restored, bodies were washed. Happiness returned. Ten hours of unpacking later, the kitchen was done. Kitchens take a lot of time to unpack. No question about it. In the meantime, deliveries came and went and our house became fuller still.
Friday, my father came to help. He made us a little bit crazy but he was a huge help. The kids' bedrooms were done and the den and living room were unpacked, the book shelves were adjusted, and the books were put away. Cable was hooked up so we had television again.
Saturday dawned with a trip to Stew Leonard's for pick up 1.5 lbs of jalapeno poppers. That's all we ended up eating for the whole day, as it turned out. The playroom was unpacked. The gym equipment was delivered and assembled by experts. We worked until the wee hours getting everything as finished as we could.
You should see the garage. In fact, I will take some pictures so you can see how we turned a spacious two car garage into a place where boxes were sent to die. My garage is the elephant graveyard of moving materials.
Sunday, the children came to their new home. I was promptly informed, and then regularly reminded by the Girl Child, that if it "was too hard" for her at the new house, her grandparents said she could move back with them.
Yesterday, first day back at the office and lots of catching up to do.
Today, too gruesome for words at work. Oh, and my wife has left us. You picked a fine time to leave me, Lucille! Jetted off to Cinncinnati. Business, she claims. But we all know what a garden of temptation Cinncinnati is. Who knows what she's doing there.
I told the Girl Child last week that when her mother went away, we could stay up late and do something fun, just the two of us. Last night, after I said good night and turned off her light, she said, "Pappa, I am sooo excited about tomorrow night!" Yay for me! I'm going to hold on to these moments as long as I can!
Another thing I'd like to hold on to? When I tell the Boy Child that I love him, in Norwegian, "Glad i deg!", his response back, "Goal die!" is too precious for me not to savor.
Finally, the kids are excited by the deer. They have seen the deer and like them. Me? I have seen the deer and concluded that, much as pigeons in the City are rats with wings, deer are rats with antlers and big ears.
More to come later.
Thanks for all the good wishes on the prior post! You all are the best!
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Kind-a-sorta back to normal? Or maybe creating a new normal.
Either way, we missed you.
Posted by: Wicked H at August 02, 2005 05:52 PM (BQhBn)
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So glad to see you back with good things to say about the move! It gives us hope for ours that's coming up sometime next week. Best of luck as you continue to settle in.
Posted by: Mandalei at August 02, 2005 06:34 PM (sg0po)
Posted by: Amy at August 02, 2005 07:33 PM (nUCsP)
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As you know, your children are precious.
; )
(A word of warning about the deer. My four-year-old was *attacked* by a *pet* deer raised by a family in our neighborhood. She's okay, but she could have lost an eye or worse. Warn the children: As docile and tame as they may appear, they are wild animals!)
Posted by: Christina at August 02, 2005 09:07 PM (zJsUT)
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Congratulations on the move! What does "Goal die!" mean?
Posted by: Angie at August 02, 2005 09:17 PM (PQx1b)
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Goal die? Sounds like a hockey chant. ;-)
Glad things are coming along in the new place, RP.
Posted by: Jim at August 03, 2005 06:19 AM (oqu5j)
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Sorry about the confusion. I should have been more clear. Glad i deg (pronounced like: gla e die) is I love you in Norwegian (as said to a child and not a lover). Goal die is how the Boy Child says it back to me, how he pronounces it.
Posted by: RP at August 03, 2005 09:11 AM (LlPKh)
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Cinci, eh? I'm afraid I must inform you that your wife is a closet rocketeer. You see, this is the week that the National rocket contest is happening - in Cincinnati. And why else would anyone *choose* to go there?
You're a lucky man. 'Cept for the deception part, of course. Be patient and understanding with her.
Posted by: Ted at August 03, 2005 01:50 PM (blNMI)
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I thought "I love you" was "jeg elsker deg" i Norsk. Maybe that's why things never even made it to 1st base with the one Norwegian girl I ever tried to woo...
And jalapenos and margaritas for moving day meals? Dang, RP, just what kind of Yankee are you? You sound more like a Texan.
Congrats on the new house. I'll have to send you a picture of my two-car garage, which still looks like an elephant graveyard 4 weeks after our move-in.
Posted by: JohnL at August 03, 2005 05:45 PM (YVul2)
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Sorry about this, John, but I have to tell you that in that instance you were correct. Jeg elsker deg is I love you in the romantic sense. It is exactly what you'd say to a lover. To a child, however, you'd say Jeg er gla i deg. So, I can't let you walk away thinking it was the language thing.
What kind of Yankee am I? One who used to call New Orleans home, my friend.
I'll be happy to swap pics!
Posted by: RP at August 03, 2005 08:56 PM (fWrQ6)
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I miss a lot when I'm in bed for a few days.
Glad the move went fairly well. I love the comment about the garage. We had to have the city here do a special "bulk pickup" and included a six pack with it.
Next time anyone heads to Ohio, let me know. I might actually be able to meet up. Cinci is only an hour and a half from me. Not a big deal at all, unless I'm not feeling well.
Posted by: Linda at August 04, 2005 12:18 PM (4gch1)
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Waar zijn de beelden? (Dutch - sorry no Norwegian)
Where are the pictures?
Posted by: Michele at August 05, 2005 11:20 PM (ht2RK)
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